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Making friends with the wrong kind of people…

"Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared."   Proverbs 22:24-25

As a parent, I am always curious about the friends that my children walk with on a daily basis.  I always tell my kids, "I know you can be an impact on your friends, but they can be an impact on you, too."  I worry many times that my children are making friends with the wrong the kind of people.  As parents, we need to be aware of the impact our friends make on us, as well.  We are just as easily affected by our friends as our children are.  The book of Proverbs is one of my favorite books of the Bible.  Solomon shared his wisdom with his son, and in Proverbs 22, Solomon talks to his son about making friends with a hot-tempered person.  Solomon says in Proverbs 22:24-25, "Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared."  He goes on to say in Proverbs 29:22, "An angry person stirs up conflict, and a hot-tempered person commits many sins."  Many times in the Bible when the words "snare" or "ensnared" are used they are referring to a dangerous trap that could lead to death.  I don't know about you, but I don't want to be "snared" or "ensnared."  However, many times that is just what we are doing to ourselves.  We are trapping ourselves by walking with people who we know are hot-tempered and easily angered.  We find ourselves defending our hot-headed friends many times, and if we are not careful, we will find ourselves trapped in a dangerous place, a place of sin.  We need to take God's Word literally!  We need to understand that we can and will "learn their ways" and get ourselves "ensnared" if we continue to make friends with hot-tempered or easily angered people.

I am not saying that we need to reject them or treat them with disdain.  I am saying that we need to pray for them and be a godly example for them when we are around them.  But we don't need to walk with them on a daily basis.  Proverbs 13:20-21 says, "Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.  Trouble pursues the sinner, but the righteous are rewarded with good things."  We need to walk with friends who trust in the Lord and are allowing God to fill them wisdom and humility.  I want to be impacted by this kind of person.  I want to have friends who embrace Micah 6:8.  I want to be a friend who lives Micah 6:8.  What is a Micah 6:8 friend?  "He has shown you, O mortal, what is good.  And what does the Lord require of you?  To act justly and love mercy and to walk humbly with your God."

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